Stepping Off The Timetable Train.Time To Rethink Childhood

6

30 am alarm signs get up

shower get dressed 7 am waking the

children

get them up washed and dressed 7

30 everyone sitting around the breakfast

table to have breakfast before brushing

teeth coats on

in the car and buckled up ready to be

dropped off to school

along the four mile journey into town

i find a car parking space and i’m at my

desk for nine am

my day continues like this timetabled

you see i worked in the professional

service sector so i was used to working

with a daily timesheet

each case or client i would be working

with would be allocated a code

and every 10 minutes of my day would be

accounted to whichever case

or client i would be working on there

simply could be no unaccounted time

in my day i leave the office at 5 pm

pick the children up along the one hour

commute home have dinner in the table

for 6

30 perhaps going out that evening to

some extracurricular activities

children in bed for 8 30 uniforms ready

chores done fall into bed ready to get

on exactly

the same treadmill again the next day

my name’s diane koplevski and this was

my life over 20 years ago

as i was expecting my youngest child i

decided i didn’t want to go back

to my busy timetable to work career at

least not for a while

so call it hormones if you will but i

bought a small day nursery the week

after giving birth to my youngest son

and he was just short of three months

old when i handed him over to his new

caregiver

on our first day at our new nursery

i had a business background a post-grad

in law

and a mba surely running a small day

nursery would be no more challenging

than any of my previous jobs

but how wrong could i be

now the weeks and months that followed

brought my life into turmoil

my youngest son in fact was in and out

of hospital for the first 18 months of

his life

at the same time i helped care for my

terminally ill mother

who lost her battle to skin cancer on

mothering sunday of 2003

followed not long after by my husband’s

father

but i was still busy running my day

nursery was juggling all of this with

being a busy working mom

but i wasn’t on my own in this busy

phase of life

you see every single parent that i would

meet as they were dropping their

children into nursery and picking them

up wasn’t exactly the same position

we were all in the same treadmill doing

the very best we could do

to cope with the challenges of being

working parents

so whilst these first few weeks and

months were challenging for me on a

personal level the unexpected happened

i absolutely fell in love with the early

year sector

i loved the people that i worked with

such an inspirational workforce

and i remain to this day and all of the

work that they do with children and

young people

and i think it really needs to be said

during this pandemic how they have gone

over

and above often putting the needs

of their the children and families that

we work with

above their own and how they’ve done

this with such amazing good grace

yet as a key working sector we’ve been

so rarely recognized

but above all of this i am and day in

day out continue to be inspired most by

the children

and young people themselves so let me

take you back to my first day

in nursery it was all new to me so i

spent the first day

observing in the pre-school room and

along the wall of the pre-school room

was this tree and time table

and with it went from one end of the

room to the other

and behind the train were carriages and

each carriage

would have an activity and a time

allocated to it

9 am circle time 9

15 song and rhyme time

9 30 puzzles and tabletop games

9 45 story time

10 15 snack time

10 30 art and craft and this would go on

so on and so on right through until home

time

i was not impressed with the timetable

train

i really didn’t want children becoming

so used to being timetabled

at such a young age that this would be

all they would ever know out of life

so i talked to the staff and asked them

maybe to go at a different pace

the child’s pace now this presented

challenges staff struggled to deviate to

be impulsive to make decisions

and the children had become so

apparently used to the timetable tree

and they just didn’t cope without having

one

hardly surprising i thought as young

parents were all told that children

thrive and retain

so reluctantly after a few weeks the

train timetable went back up again

but i was determined to find a better

solution and for a couple of years i

studied several early years programs and

one such study

led me to an international conference in

northern italy to the town of

reggio amelia i was wowed by their

approach to early education

as i observed in the nurseries in regio

emilia i could see that children

actively led their days

they actively were consulted about

decisions which impacted on them in

nursery

and their beautiful environments were

known as the third educator

so i come back inspired to make a

difference but this time i started with

our younger age groups

now don’t get me wrong in every nursery

there will be set times for snack time

lunch time not be changing sleep

but all else looks completely different

for us

we started by eliminating all of the

plastic from our rooms and we donated

all of our plastic toys to mother and

toddler centers

instead we replaced these with loose

parts

unauthentic items such as pots and pans

in our home corner

proper dress up clothes proper adult

clothes and children’s clothes in our

dress-up corners instead of princess and

pirate costumes

and we no longer used plastic plates and

plastic cups and we replaced these with

proper crockery and proper glasses

our art no longer evolved around

pre-printed sheets along the walls

displayed and led like by adults as if

it was almost an art display in a

gallery

instead it became individually focused

we set up due areas

in our in our art corners with

ingredients where children can make up

their own fresh play-doh each day

they use clay and loose parts and this

has replaced our traditional pom-poms

and glitters

our environments are beautifully calming

and beautifully natural and the learning

which happens there

far outweighs our plastic fantastic

time constrained nursery of old

we also established northern ireland’s

first registered wraparound care in

primary schools back in 2006

where children are free to lead and

direct their own play during all of

their time with us

now again don’t get me wrong there will

be extra curricular activities happening

there will be interest etc depending on

the time of year

but when children come back we

facilitate time

for them to direct and lead their own

play using new electronics

during their time with us we’re play

enablers we’re play facilitators

and this gives children the much

unstructured and untimed untimetable

period

in their day which the theorists tell us

is so

important to their well-being i kid you

not the children’s lives were

transformed when we removed this

timetabling from their day

none more so than my youngest son who’d

been with us from three months old and

stayed right up

until our after schools in primary seven

he left us to go to an all boys

post-primary school

where most of the children and most of

his peers went on to play school sport

join the school band but his love was

for all things theatrical

singing choreography music theater

he did that and continues at university

to do this with pride

not allowing himself to fall in line

with what his peers and his teachers in

society in school believed to be the

norm

my oldest son on the other hand he’d

grown up in a timetable lifestyle

where parents caregivers and teachers

made all of the decisions which

impacted him in school in child care and

at home

and i’m guilty of being that parent

he grew up with a love of sport rugby in

particular

and that became his focus in

post-primary now if you’re from northern

ireland you will know that saint

patrick’s day is famous for many things

but also schools cup finals for rugby

football

and gaelic are all held in the state for

some young people this is quite

literally the culmination of their

playing days from the ages of five or

six

uh from they played mini rugby in

schools and my son

like all of the peers when he went to a

rugby playing post primary school

dreamed of making

the first 15.

each year would bring tournaments the

first main tournament was the medallion

shield and fourth form so around the

ages of 14 and 15.

that was like a mini version of the

school’s cup final and my son was lucky

to win two medallion shields one of

which he played up a year early and

third form

after this of course would be the

school’s cup competition itself

for some young people as i said this

goes back to the ages of five or six and

even younger when they could hold a

rugby ball in their hand

and for these rugby playing schools and

some of their coaches

this is quite literally the equivalent

of the world cup

so on the morning when my son reached

the dream

the pinnacle of his school days which

was to play in the final of the school’s

cup at the kingspan stadium he told us

that win or lose that day

he would never pick up a rugby ball

again

you see he enjoyed the sport but he was

burned out with the timetabling off it

and that would be before he would ever

get

on the career treadmill we thought it

was exhausting that day but he’s kept

his promise

and i’m proud of the decisions he took

to put his own interests on his academic

studies first but if i could turn back

time

and do things differently i most

certainly would

you see i can pin back to third year

when he

had not only the timetabling and the

scheduling of the sport and his

academics of third year

but he was also asked to play up a year

in fourth year so had to build in their

time tabling

where his academic teachers and his

sports coaches put him under such

immense pressure

when all he wanted to do was to

represent a school

at a sport in which he was quite

talented but this literally killed

the love of his sport and not one adult

consulted with him

we did take change after that but that’s

a story for another day

if i could leave you with one thing

to change all of this and consult with

children and young people it is this

despite all of the travesties of the

covert 19 pandemic it has given us the

gift of time

down horrific as it has been for many

many families juggling both

homeschooling and working

it gave us the gift of chat of time

it gave us the gift of children having

to be innovative in their play

they played in their gardens in the

vicinity of their own homes they made up

play in rules and games

i now i have 20 years experience of

doing what i do

which is giving children the freedom and

facilitating play

these children become resilient they’re

decision makers

they’re problem solvers from a young age

they are the thinkers and doers of our

next generation

these are the children who when employed

as adults won’t be resistant to change

so before it’s too late pause and think

consult with children and young people

before things go back to normal

what do they really want to go back to

and rethink that over timetable schedule

that’s on the fridge

of many family homes and wouldn’t it be

lovely when in 20 years

i look back on the horrific time that

many of us have endured in 2020

and 2021 that one of the everlasting

legacies

of the covet 19 pandemic was that we as

adults consulted more with children

that we give them back their childhood

and we give them both the time

and the freedom to play

6

上午 30 点警报信号

起床 淋浴 穿衣 早上 7 点叫醒

孩子

们 洗漱和穿衣 7

30 每个人都围坐在早餐

桌旁吃早餐,然后

在车上刷牙衣

并系好安全带准备

送去上学

在进城四英里的路上,

我找到了一个停车位,我

早上九点在办公桌前,

我的一天按照这个时间表继续,

你看我在专业

服务部门工作,所以我习惯于

处理每个案例的每日时间表

或者我将与之合作的客户

将被分配一个代码,

并且我一天中的每 10 分钟将

计入

我将要处理的任何案例或客户那里

根本不可能

在我的一天中没有未计入的时间我在下午 5 点离开办公室

挑选 孩子们沿着一小时

通勤回家在餐桌上吃晚饭

6

30 也许那天晚上出去参加

一些课外活动

孩子们在床上 8 30 制服准备好了

家务活 倒在床上准备好了

第二天再次踏上完全相同的跑步机

我的名字是黛安·科普列夫斯基,这是

我 20 多年前的生活,

因为我怀着我最小的孩子,我

决定我不想回到

繁忙的时间表去工作

至少不是 有一段

时间,如果你愿意,可以称之为荷尔蒙,但

我在生下最小的儿子后一周买了一个小型日托

当我在我们的第一天把他交给他的新照顾者时,他才三个月大

新托儿所

我有商业背景,法学研究生

和工商管理硕士,经营一个小型

托儿所肯定不会

比我以前的任何工作更具挑战性,

在接下来的几个星期和几个月里,

我的生活有多么错误 动荡

我最小的儿子实际上在他生命

的前 18 个月里进出医院,

与此同时,我帮助照顾我

身患绝症的母亲

,她在 2003 年的母亲节那天与皮肤癌作斗争,

不久之后我的 丈夫的

父亲,

但我仍然忙于经营我的

托儿所,同时

作为一个忙碌的工作妈妈来兼顾这一切,

但我在这个忙碌

的生活阶段并不孤单,

你看到我遇到的每一位单亲父母,

因为他们正在放弃他们

孩子们进入托儿所并接

他们不是完全相同的位置

我们都在同一个跑步机上

尽我们所能

来应对作为工作父母的挑战

所以虽然最初的几周和

几个月对我来说是挑战 就

个人而言,意外发生了

我绝对爱上了

早年部门

我喜欢与

如此鼓舞人心的员工一起工作的人

,我一直到今天以及

他们为儿童和年轻人所做的所有工作

,我认为 确实需要说的是,

在这次大流行期间,他们是如何

超越经常将与我们一起工作

的孩子和家庭的需求

置于他们自己之上的,以及他们是如何做到的

有着如此惊人的优雅,

但作为一个关键的工作部门,

我们很少得到认可,

但最重要的是,我和

日复一日继续

受到儿童

和年轻人自己的启发,所以让我

带你回到 我

在托儿所的第一天对我来说是全新的,所以我

第一天

在学前室观察,

沿着学前室的墙壁

是这棵树和时间表

,它从

房间的一端移开

火车后面是车厢,

每个

车厢都有一个活动和时间

分配给它

上午 9 点循环时间 9

15 歌曲和押韵时间

9 30 拼图和桌面游戏

9 45 故事时间

10 15 小吃时间

10 30 艺术和 手艺,这样

一直持续到回家

时间

我对时间表火车没有留下深刻的印象

我真的不希望孩子们

在这么小的时候就习惯于被安排时间表,这将是他们所拥有的

一切 从生活中知道,

所以我与之交谈 工作人员并要求他们

可能会以不同的速度走

孩子的步伐现在这提出了

挑战工作人员努力偏离

以冲动做出决定

,孩子们

显然已经习惯了时间表树

,他们只是没有应付

一个

不足为奇的是,我认为年轻的

父母都被告知孩子们

在几周后很不情愿地茁壮成长,

火车时刻表又恢复了,

但我决心找到一个更好的

解决方案,几年来我

研究了几个早教项目

一项这样的研究

使我参加了在

意大利北部

雷焦

阿梅利亚镇举行的国际会议 关于

托儿所

和他们美丽的环境中影响他们的决定被

称为第三位教育家,

所以我回来了 ed会有所作为,

但这次我从

我们的年轻群体开始

现在不要误会我在每个托儿所

都会有固定的零食时间

午餐时间不会改变睡眠

但对我们来说其他一切看起来完全不同

我们开始 消除

房间里的所有塑料,我们将

所有塑料玩具捐赠给

母婴中心

我们的

装扮角落,而不是公主和

海盗服装

,我们不再使用塑料盘子和

塑料杯,我们用

适当的

陶器和适当的眼镜代替它们 就好像

它几乎是画廊里的艺术展示,

相反,它变得以个人为重点

,我们在我们的艺术角落设置了适当的区域,里面有

配料 孩子们可以

每天使用粘土和松散的零件制作自己的新玩具,这

已经取代了我们传统的绒球

和闪闪发光

的东西

旧托儿所 早在 2006 年,

我们还在北爱尔兰建立了

第一个注册的环绕式幼儿园

,孩子们可以在与我们在一起的所有时间里自由地领导和

指导他们自己的游戏

现在再次不要误会我的意思

会有额外的课程

根据

一年中的时间进行的活动会引起兴趣等,

但是当孩子们回来时,我们会

为他们提供时间,让他们

在与我们在一起的时间里使用新的电子设备指导和领导自己的游戏 我们是游戏的

推动者 我们是游戏的促进

者 让孩子们在他们的一天中有很多

无组织和没有时间安排的

时间段

,理论家告诉我们这对我们

来说非常

重要 他们的幸福 我不骗你

当我们

从他们的一天中删除这个

时间表时,孩子

们的生活发生了变化

离开我们去了一所全男生

的小学后

,大多数孩子和

他的大多数同龄人继续参加学校运动

加入学校乐队,但他的爱是

对所有的东西戏剧

歌唱舞蹈音乐剧院

他做到了,并继续在 大学

要自豪地做到这一点,

不允许自己

与他的同龄人和他

在学校里的社会老师认为是

规范的一致

我的大儿子另一方面,他

在一个有时间表的生活方式

中长大

做出了所有

影响他在学校、儿童保育和

家中的决定

,我为他的父母感到内疚,

他从小就特别喜欢橄榄球

,这成为他关注

现在小学毕业后,如果您来自

北爱尔兰,您会知道圣

帕特里克节以许多事情而闻名,

但橄榄球

和盖尔语的学校杯决赛也都在该州举行,对于

一些年轻人来说,这

确实是 他们

从五

六岁

开始打球,呃,他们在学校打迷你橄榄球

,我儿子

和所有同龄人一样,在

小学后参加橄榄球比赛时,

梦想能打进

前 15 名。

每年都会带来锦标赛的

第一名 主要比赛是奖章

盾牌和第四形式,所以大约在

14 岁和 15 岁左右。

这就像

学校杯决赛的迷你版,我儿子很幸运

地赢得了两个奖章盾牌,其中一个

他提前一年和

第三个出场

之后的形式当然是一些年轻人的

学校杯赛

本身,正如我所说,这

可以追溯到五六岁

甚至更年轻的时候,他们可以手里拿着一个

橄榄球

对于这些橄榄球学校和

他们的一些教练来说,

这简直

相当于世界杯,

所以在我儿子

实现梦想

的那天早上,他的学生时代的巅峰之作

就是参加学校杯的决赛。

金斯潘体育场他告诉我们

那天输赢

他再也不会捡起橄榄球

以为那天很累,但他

信守诺言

,我为他

将自己的兴趣放在学术

研究上的决定感到自豪,但如果我能时光倒流

,做不同的事情,我肯定

你会看到我能 回到第三年,

当时

他不仅有运动的时间表和

日程安排,还有他

第三年的学业,

而且他还被要求

在第四年打一年,所以必须在他们的时间表中建立

w 在这里,他的学术老师和

体育教练给他带来了

巨大的压力

,而他只想

代表一所学校

参加一项他很有天赋的运动,

但这实际上扼杀

了他对运动的热爱,没有一个

成年人与他商量

在那之后我们确实进行了改变,但

如果我能给你留下一件事

来改变这一切并与

儿童和年轻人协商,那就是另一天的故事了

时间的礼物是

可怕的,因为

许多家庭既要

在家上学又要工作

他们在自己的家中

玩规则和游戏

我现在有 20 年

做我所做的事情的经验

这给孩子们自由和

促进游戏

这些孩子变得有弹性 他们是决策者

他们从小就是解决问题的人

他们是我们下一代的思想家和行动者

这些孩子在

成年后不会抗拒改变

所以在为时已晚之前停下来思考

咨询

在一切恢复正常之前

儿童和

年轻人在一起 我们中的

许多人在 2020 年

和 2021 年经历了可怕的时光,

covet 19 大流行的永恒遗产之一是,我们作为

成年人与孩子们进行了更多的协商

,我们还给了他们童年

,我们给了他们时间

和自由 玩