From worrier to warrior how to live a more fulfilling life
I am Emily and I am a warrior and on
some days I will worry
in fact on most days I will I’m really
good at worrying which actually makes me
a master warrior learning to be a
warrior who here knows how it is to
worry the struggle is real let me take
you back when it all started I was nine
months old and I was lying on my parents
bed
my mum was there with me and she briefly
turned around I flipped over banged my
head on the floor and was unconscious I
was rushed to hospital and ended up in a
coma the doctors had to operate and they
gave me 40% chance of surviving I am
lucky to be here today with with this
dramatic accident my mum started to be a
bit worried about me she didn’t really
trust other people to take care of me
so this planted the worry seed inside of
my way of being I worried about the most
tiniest things and even if they were
tiny they were important to me so for
instance I used to worry when we used to
drive to school that I didn’t have
enough petrol in the car or that I
wasn’t going to be picked up from school
or for instance in exams and you might
relate to this I was worried that I was
going to have a mind blank such as
forgetting the capital of India for
instance it’s New Delhi just in case you
forgot this constant worrying made me be
in a constant worry loop and my body
coped in a way that that I had developed
a skin condition called eczema
I was very self aware of how I looked
and as you can see here I was it was
very visible so I was very embarrassed
as well the way I looked and so I
decided that I have had enough and at
the age of 26 I decided to take coaching
sessions and they really helped me to
connect with myself and one day when I
was stuck in a worry loop my coach asked
me how is that going for you Emily this
constant worrying and I was kind of
taken aback because I didn’t realize
until then that I had the choice until
then I was so identified with my worry
met with my inner warrior and it was
such a huge relief like I had such a
sense of freedom all of a sudden and so
I got I got curious and I became a coach
myself it’s now very obvious for me
after having been in touch with my
little Emily warrior who actually just
wanted to be loved feel safe and be held
that you have to really be in touch with
your inner warrior if you want to heal
heal from within
and so over the years I realized that
the mind and body connection are really
really important
there are numerous scientific studies in
fact that show this and I don’t know if
you know but we have won more than just
one brain we have obviously our head
brain our heart brain and our gut brain
as well
Grant Sioux City and Marvin okay two
international leading experts have
developed on on this on these scientific
studies a coaching modality called M
braining and with this modality come a
bunch of techniques called multiple
brain integration techniques and one of
these techniques is a balanced breathing
now I don’t know how you react when you
worry but when I worry I’m very much in
my head I have million thoughts going at
a million miles an hour and I feel very
detached from my body and so multi brain
and brain imbalance breathing helps you
to really connect with yourself again
and be grounded it also helps you to no
longer just breathe from up here but
breathe from your whole upper body and
so it accelerates the the blood flow in
your body and your heads will also feel
clearer you’re therefore also giving a
chance of your different brains to
communicate with themselves again
because they all share a certain amount
of wisdom and so when you’re stressed
and worried as I said you tend to be up
here and with an braining bounce
breathing you can start to share the
responsibility with a difference with
the two other brains so let me
if if you’re up for it let me show you
how I’m breathing bones breathing works
this is my Tibetan Bowl and I will be
guiding you through this exercise so
basically it’s about sitting comfortably
and your shoulders upright like this
your neck Ellen gaiters and your
shoulders relax your feet on the ground
so that you can feel the circulation and
then the interesting thing is is to
breathe in with your tummy out and
breathe out again with your tummy back
in again and ideally you do that 5 to 10
minutes every day but we’ll just do a
few in breaths here and there
interesting and very important part is
that you breathe in for seconds
and breathe out for seconds and I also
forgot to say that it’s very important
that you feel a level of deep
appreciation in your heart so that your
heart is connected with the people
around you and that you connect with
yourself so inhale
think so
inhale exhale inhale
I think so
how good did that feel and wasn’t it
easy you see this exercise you can do
whenever you want and wherever you want
and actually it’s just like flexing a
muscle the more you do it the better you
will become at it and the more it will
help you to come out of your head and
feel more connected to your body and
stay grounded and bein an reigning
Bounce breathing helped me to connect
with my warrior and it also helped me to
manage my warrior state you see we have
both inside of us it’s not like you’re
either or without you knowing it
potentially we are the warrior and the
worry the warrior and they’re part of
the same team and so please don’t
neglect the warrior inside if you don’t
push it away and pay attention to it
because you can you can quote me on it
if you want to it has a lot of wisdom
that it wants to share with you in order
to step into your authentic self so it’s
when they work together that you can
step into your authentic self and
actually become more creative take
better decisions and befriend sense more
relaxed when you do exams it’s a bit
like breathing really they work into
that inhale and the exhale so breathe in
the warrior and breathe out the warrior
you also have the choice because we’re
all in this human-being business
together thank you
you