Girls Dont Break Girls
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girls
don’t break girls well i’m sure
i have a mixed audience here for all
women who feel female bosses favor the
male colleagues
and for all men out there who feel
two girls can never be friends with each
other
let me help you today to redefine how
girls don’t break girls if a girl
with a short dress wants to walk like
that
let the girl with a long dress not blame
her
and shame her if girl 35
wants to leave a man let girl 55
not hold her back even if she gave her
birth
if a girl wants to let a boy touch her
let another girl not be too quick to
judge her
if girl blue wants to sit on the island
throne
let girl green not act on her
envy if girl quiet
wants to stay home with her thoughts and
fears
let go loud not scream
pouring into her ears
let go too much makeup wear makeup
let go dirty dance dance let go
workaholic work even when we stand
alone and apart each one of us
is a star and together we are a son
i have been hearing a lot of talk about
women bully each other while i
accept that we are wired to be more
catty competitive
and mean but let me also take the
privilege of saying that we are
one of the most loyal committed and
empathetic species on earth
i was having a chat with my teammate
recently
when he cracked that age-old joke off
put 10 men in a room for an hour and
they most likely will come out as
friends and do the same with 10 women
what do you think will happen i smiled
and said they two would come out as
friends
he laughed hard and said
no mom in most cases these 10 ladies
who were together in that room will come
out
no doubt smiling but with daggers in
their hearts
while he continued to laugh at this joke
i felt
deep down this issue of why do people
still think this about
women i am often shocked when i see
women mocking another woman for wearing
that short dress
or judging each other when they work
from the office
or our home managers i am still
unsure as to why a single woman is
considered
vulnerable or why are women supposed to
marry
at a particular age and have babies at
another age
who put these norms or rules for us
why is it that we still here oh you have
a female boss
god bless you or how can you even think
of having a smooth relationship with
your mother-in-law
remember she loves the same man who’s
your love of life too
can you imagine there are described
terms
as to pull her down syndrome where women
pull each other down or women bullying
women
a very commonly used term
at workplaces i wish
people were as excited and supportive
about women’s career mindstorms
personal development and travel journeys
as they were about pregnancies and
engagements
while i know all of this that we just
spoke about
is true but we also have some
beautiful stories which i’m sure a lot
of you can relate to
where empowered women empower women
in real time these are my stories
and i’m sure a lot of you will be able
to
see yourself through my narratives
i started working at 21
after graduating from my engineering
college
i quickly grasped the tricks of social
media marketing
and became a community manager i
remember
when a lady client met me i didn’t get
much positive advice from her
i was new and raw in the media marketing
industry
and was really working hard to prove
myself
this marketing head of one of the
biggest
fashion brands gave me a real hard time
most of the times she kept rejecting my
presentations
campaigns and ideas i truly felt like a
phone
in a presentation to the senior board
where
there were five men and one her
she rejected all my work again
while the others did not seem to have
any issue with it
in a nutshell i knew that she truly
hated me
i felt how could one woman
pull down another woman so
i sat strategized worked even harder
i was ready with more material she
asked me for a change in the boardroom
and the work was shown in a jiffy
eventually the eyes broke she could
understand
and started being more humane and during
our conversations we realized we were
quite akin you know what i learned from
her
when someone pushes you to a corner only
then
can you shine brighter i owe
a lot of my professional success to her
today
thank you miss klein for being such a
tough nut
moving on when i was a child
i wanted to become a doctor who dreamt
of inventing a vaccine for hiv aids and
cancer
and all that i thought was unsorted
my cousin who was a research scholar in
the us
saw me all pepped up as a young girl
and made sure that every year she sent
me
the search papers and doctor talks to a
certain
that fire in my belly is ignited forever
to be someone so here was
one empowered woman making sure that she
empowers
another young girl so as dreams become
a reality my most favorite narrative of
all times
is that of my maternal grandmother
who was apparently one of the first
educated girls from a small town
in punjab india she got her graduation
degree
along with a job as a german school
teacher
she worked relentlessly to shine
once she got married she like a lot of
other women
gave priority to her family and hence
her career
went on the back burner
but when the time came for her daughter
to either pursue a career or take care
of her family
my grandmother made sure my mother
wouldn’t make the same sacrifices that
she as a woman
had to make so while my mother continued
with her job
even when i or my younger sister were
just a few months old
my grandmother took proper care of me
and my sister
can you imagine not seeing your seven or
nine months old baby for a week
i must happily admit that yes my mother
did choose her career
while my grandmother supported my
parents
we still call my grandmother our mom
and our mother as mama a salute to my
nani
and all the other grandmothers who made
sure that they teach us the true meaning
of being a woman
and let their daughter or
daughter-in-law shine
by being their supporting system
so here was one woman empowering another
woman
and making sure that she lets her grow
and prosper
i love the efforts of women who have
come out of their houses
and are working as domestic help
auto rickshaw drivers janitors and
breaking the societal shackles
how inspiring is it to see the
percentage of women in sea suit roles
in chinga beach here i’m glad to see
more young and old girls choosing to
start a business
which makes them feel much in control
what an inspiring story of the
chandigarh grandma
who at the age of 94 started her own
basin burfi’s business i am amazed
at how we as women are capable of doing
anything only if we truly believe in
ourselves
and in our tribe there is
anyway too much of pain gap
need to glass ceiling and patriarchy
fighting with each other for upmanship
or validation should be the last thing
on our list let me
end the talk today by saying
never has it been a better time to be a
woman
never have women had such tremendous
opportunities
as they do now when they are running
companies
countries and are in financial and
emotional control of their well-being
as women we have to rise up at this
moment and each empowered woman
should empower another underprivileged
woman
and start spreading the message of
girls don’t break girls they
make yes they make countries economies
and a society a better place with their
love
and compassion so
next time this colleague of yours
who wears some extra makeup complimenter
when your neighbor auntie gets into a
multi-level marketing system
congratulate her when your younger
cousin graduates and starts a business
of her own
send her a cake and wish well for her
at least you and i can surely
stop body shaming bitching calling
each other and celebrate our sisterhood
let us all be our own heroes from here
and today
three tears to womanhood and being one
thank you