Become ConsciousYou Must Can Change the World
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how do you feel
when you hear the words you must
if you’re anything like me there’s this
rebellious
inner child that wants to scream out you
can’t tell me what to do
but today i’m going to share with you
the power that two-word phrase has
to create freedom the freedom
to release judgments and beliefs and
assumptions
that lead to prolonged generational
patterns
patterns that we consciously or
unconsciously continue
patterns that we must break because they
lead
to self-doubt and
harm and prejudice toward others
recently i had a zoom conversation with
a friend of mine
who’s experienced job loss and i could
feel her fear and uncertainty
and then also the frustration as she was
explaining the inequity
of opportunities and viewpoints toward
hispanic people as it related to the job
hunt
she said that the language that is being
used
in job applications and conversations is
holding people down she said someone has
to do
something our words matter
so i asked her why don’t you do
something
no no no no and she provided me with a
belief
that she had about what she could or
couldn’t
influence but we kept talking
and talking and she started to think
what if
what if that belief that i can’t
influence
change isn’t true what if i can
and she started to get excited and she
asked me do you think
that i would be able to make a
difference if i could help to educate
people
on the power of our words and how we can
lift people up instead of holding people
down
and i got chills
i said not only can you but you must
and she radiated energy i could feel it
through the screen
because when we are lucky enough to hear
that urgent inner voice that tells us of
how our ideas
our experiences our unique gifts
can contribute to something bigger than
us it absolutely lights us up inside
and that light that light is like a
beacon of hope
to others and it moves beyond
can i or should i into i
must
and the reason we don’t often try
comes down to what we believe we are
capable of
beliefs that may have protected us in
the past but it’s no longer serving us
beliefs
that may or may not be true beliefs that
may
or may not be ours they may have been
handed down to us from our parents
or given to us from teachers
coaches media peers
but what if what if we could become more
aware
of these beliefs and where they came
from what if we could pull them up
and out and challenge them and ask is
this true
is this mine is this serving us
and if the answer is no let it go and
create
space so that you can consciously
choose a more empowering belief
the work that you do to consciously
choose your beliefs
can reduce generational patterns
that hold us back individually
and perpetuate bias
and ignorance and hatred and violence
generational patterns come in all forms
just like people and some of them
some of them are heavy and deep like the
ones i’ve mentioned
but others others are light and silly i
remember the first time
i had a clue what a generational pattern
was i heard my mother
falling out of my mouth i was folding
laundry
the boys were making faces at each other
and all of a sudden
out of the blue i say if you keep doing
that
your face is going to stay that way what
does that even mean
i had never said it before i know i’ve
heard it before
but then it just comes out of my mouth
when else has this happened
i thought about it we only buy
american money doesn’t grow on trees
that neighborhood isn’t safe there just
aren’t enough hours in the day
i hate birds okay that last one
may require a little explaining you see
when i was growing up
my mother used to talk about how much
she hated birds
now i don’t know if she had a negative
interaction with a bird as a child
or maybe she heard it from her mother or
her mother’s mother i don’t know
but she said it i ingested it
and then i started saying it until
one day i was watching an eagle fly
i was filled with joy and i thought oh
it’s so beautiful it’s like
it’s like freedom wrapped in feathers i
love birds
it doesn’t matter whether i love birds
or hate birds but it really
mattered that i didn’t know which
beliefs were mine
and which were given to me i wondered
what else had i received in this
parental download without being aware of
it
there are things that you do and you say
without any thought whatsoever as well
based on your programming your
upbringing your experiences
the things that you’ve seen or heard
that become etched
in your subconscious and they have a
powerful
effect on us personally and as a society
institutionalized sabotaging beliefs
are being passed down from generation to
generation
without any thought whatsoever
hindsight isn’t always 20 20. but when
you look back at your past
you can see the profound impact it has
made
on who you are and how you see the world
on how you show
up every day
and i i became obsessed with these
beliefs
and these patterns i wanted to do
something i had to figure this out and i
talked to experts i did a lot of
research and i came up with something
that i’d like to share with you
now in a traditional pattern you have
some type of a
painful interaction maybe
you grew up in a home with addiction and
there was
erratic bursts of anger in the house
and then you make a judgment about that
and you say this authority figure
scares me so authority figures are not
to be trusted
and then you react to the world in that
way so when you come in contact with any
authority figures you either pull back
or you lash out and how you show up in
the world is reflected back to you
so you may have experienced job loss
after job loss
and this cements the belief for you see
authority figures are not to be trusted
and then you pass
that belief down to your children
and those children don’t trust
doctors bosses police any authority
figure
without ever having experienced the
initial
painful interaction
a generational pattern emerges
it doesn’t have to be that way there’s
another way
that requires just a little bit of help
and is very powerful
so you still start with that painful
interaction you still grow up in the
home
with addiction you experience erratic
bursts of anger but this time
you have a role model who reminds you
that that
that may have nothing to do with you and
you don’t have to allow
that to change you and so
you make a conscious choice to not let
that define you
and instead you show up in the world
with a responsibility mindset that no
matter what goes on around you
you know that you get to choose your
thoughts and your feelings and your
responses
and you teach that to your children
and that is a very different
generational pattern that emerges
now there’s really only two main
differences here
judgment and choice
in the first pattern you’re judging the
situation
the people maybe their intentions and
then you’re just
accepting the belief in the second
pattern
you’re accepting the situation and the
people as they are because you know
you cannot change them
and instead you’re judging the belief
and you’re consciously choosing one that
serves you
that’s freedom that’s incredibly
powerful
there’s a direct correlation to the work
that you do
to connect to your inner spirit and the
power
of your choice and how that opens you
to be able to connect to other humans
and to
foster love and compassion
you may be unaware of the role that your
subconscious plays
in keeping you from making decisions and
instead
having you react based on patterns it’s
not doing it to harm you
it’s doing it to make your life easier
so that you don’t have to
think so much but is
easier always better
personally i would rather choose
now because these things tend to be a
little bit below the surface
in our subconscious we think well
i can’t do anything about it you hear
people all the time say that’s just the
way i am
i can’t help it but you can
we can become more aware
we must become conscious
there are clues there are warning signs
if you do or say something that is
judgmental or hurtful
toward another person it doesn’t feel
right because it’s not right
that’s a clue or if you
if you hear your father or your
grandmother or your uncle coming out of
your mouth
and it’s not in alignment with who you
are or who you want to be
you want to pull those words back this
is a warning sign
we must become conscious of these so
that we can release them
and create space
research indicates that the most
successful people
have a common thread of being able to
look back at their past
and be able to learn from their mistakes
now not just the action
but the underlying root cause the fear
or the belief and they are able to make
a change
these fears and faulty belief systems
keep us
from being able to make the best
decisions from being able to take
the most effective actions
it’s like when you’re wearing dirty
glasses and all you can see
is the the smudge of that failure
the muck of the judgment
the specs of disappointment
the glasses must be cleaned we must
remove the faulty belief system so that
we can
see clearly and we know the right
actions to take
because i believe that people
at their core are good
i believe that we want to do the right
things
that we want to make and live our best
fullest lives we want to be able to
shine
our light for our children and our
communities and our workplace
but we’re often hindered
by these beliefs and these patterns
i tell you that you you must make a
change
and if you like me hate to be told what
to do
consider this the world
is in need of a change
if everyone becomes aware of
and takes responsibility for
their beliefs and their choices and
their behaviors
that change is possible
and these individual changes
they can help to break
negative generational patterns and they
can be replaced
with more empowering ones we could
replace bias
with love violence
with peace
what if what if you knew
that the work that you’re doing to
improve your
own life could have
a major impact on the world
not only can you but you must
you