Start where you are do what you can with what you have.
plenty wrong in the world
there is so much going on i got up this
morning and
as every regular 25 year old today i
turned up my newspaper my phone and i
scrolled my life away for 30 minutes
there is war going on in the world
there is poverty there is inequity
there are individual cases of health to
fight for
there is ongoing gender-based violence
domestic violence against women there’s
lgbtqi
rights to fight for oh there’s smog
recently the environmental issue because
of which we couldn’t take flights up
until last week remember
and then there’s kovit there that’s a
whole new thing there’s kovit right
and i got up put my phone aside there’s
so much wrong in the world i’ve got to
do something
i think i also scrolled something across
visually impaired people and i
said okay i’ve got to do something in
that regard as well
i got up i looked at the mirror i got
ready i called my hair and for the love
of god my hair would not behave
it was supposed to be this beautiful
curls right now that was supposed to be
bouncing all around but it just wouldn’t
behave today
and my attention shifted to why won’t my
hair work what can i do to make my hair
better
i ordered some olive oil from the hotel
i oiled it i showered it washed it again
wouldn’t behave there is so much wrong
in the world
from worldly problems war
poverty environmental issues
climate change and then there’s personal
issues to deal with right my hair won’t
work my skin is too dry
why did he say something why did she say
something why am i not liked
and that pressure to do something about
it is so real
everyone in the audience right here and
who will watch us live later on as well
just spend a minute thinking of things
that are going wrong
and you would be able to count hundreds
and that i feel is something that we
present
at the moment go through a lot right
there is so much
wrong in the world so there is all these
problems
then i move towards feeling responsible
as a person in a position of privilege
and privilege is always
relative maybe as somebody who has been
able to go to school has had access to
education has a mic to speak through i
might seem privileged in one regard
but maybe as a woman who cannot give
citizenship to her child i am not
in a position of privilege the privilege
is relative but anyways we feel like oh
i am in this position of privilege i
have to do something
i have to do something about our
degrading environment
i have to do something about inequity i
have to do something about our health
system
our education system and this is not
just me speaking in my capacity of
somebody with
maybe some sort of an social exposure
social media exposure as a public figure
but i’m sure in all our capacities we
feel that sense of responsibility right
so many messages i get in my instagram
saying hey you’ve got to speak up for
this cause
why haven’t you spoken up about this
cause there’s so many things to speak
up for and you feel responsible hey i
have to do something
as a nepali i have to do something as a
citizen of the world i’ve got to do
something as a friend as a child
as a as a person maybe as an
entrepreneur there’s so many things to
do you feel responsible
and there’ll still be things that you
missed out on we were having a
conversation about
an aviation related issue earlier with
vijayasad that i was unaware of
i see so many problems daily yet i miss
out to see on a few problems so imagine
how many problems there would be
so there’s the problems then you feel
responsible
then comes the reaction to this right
have you ever had a situation
where you’ve got so much to do that you
decide to take a nap
happens to me all the time because there
is so much to do right you cannot decide
what you have to do what to do
and the best thing possible seems to not
do anything about it
i faced a similar situation when i was
in
pokhara earlier in the middle of
lockdown and all these restaurants were
empty
all these restaurants were empty i went
out to have dinner
and i felt so guilty that i would
disappoint
all the other restaurant owners if i
stepped into one
that i decided to not go in any i went
back to my hotel room and i ordered room
service
so our reaction when so much is going on
is often taking that nap
and i’m sure a lot of people out here
can resonate
and then comes a situation where all
these problems
compete with our own mental health and
well-being
digital detox is something a lot of us
do these days right because there’s so
much negativity on the internet but the
internet is actually a reflection of
what our reality
is but we say i don’t want to see this
anymore because i can’t do anything
about
world poverty i can’t do much about
inequity in education all i can do is
maybe share that instagram post on my
story and say something must be done
so it’s competing with my mental health
it’s making me
it is really making me upset so i won’t
do anything about it
and then comes my ultimate resolve it is
somebody else’s problem
the government should do something about
it
the problem is always outward
this is a mechanism that i go
on a regular basis more often than i’d
like
see plenty wrong in the world feel
overwhelmed
because of the responsibility tune out
and not solve
every anything at all blame somebody
else for it
because that’s the easier way out now
i’m not here to lecture about the
perfect way i found this
one magic wand that’s gonna solve all
problems
but i did figure something out that has
worked for me and i’m here to share
maybe because it’s going to work for you
and it is navigate in chaos
do what you can start where you are
with what you have and it is something
that
i chant to myself on a regular basis
it is not this vague theme of motivation
that i’m throwing at you today but
really think about something that is
bothering you at the moment
what am i going to do about it do what
you can
start where you are with what you have
because what happens if we do not do
that is we get into this
vicious cribbing cycle and
one negative thought attracts another
attracts another
no i’m not talking toxic positivity out
here positivity is not a switch that
you’ll be able to turn
on and everything is bright and romantic
and nice
no but what can you do you know
sometimes when i’m overwhelmed by all of
these problems
i think i’m 25 i’ll probably live until
what
90 if i’m lucky 100 i’m very lucky
or maybe not i don’t know all in all i
probably have 50 years to worry about
so what can i do in my 50 years
i can do what i can i can do with what i
have and start where i am
and each and every one of us has this
access right
you have your own unique experiences i
know when people
hold on a mic or put on a mic on and
stay on a stage and talk about all these
inspirational things it seems
it’s easy for you to say it’s easy for
you to say you have it all
but trust me everybody has their own
sphere of
experiences talents issues and
challenges
but what can anybody do you me or people
with a lot many more instagram followers
or maybe somebody who doesn’t even have
a social media account all you can do
is do what you can start where you are
with what you have i always find
this a long-term versus short-term
solution right
and i love this analogy imagine you’ve
got to cross a road or you’ve got to go
from
well i don’t know two locations and
you’ve got to come from so raha here to
where i’m
living in the city which is here where
foreign is
so more in towards the city area anyways
you’ve got a 15-minute drive
and the road is terrible imagine
it’s difficult for you to imagine out
here in chitwen because the roads are
quite nice
quite easy for us to imagine in
kathmandu
so imagine you’ve got to go from point a
to point b
and the road is terrible right what are
you going to do about it
of course you’re going to be very upset
that the road is terrible but
you have to go from point a to point b
today
that’s on you because you want to go if
the road is terrible and i don’t have a
car maybe i won’t wear these heels
maybe i’ll put sneakers on because i’ve
got to walk
if i’m driving and i know that there is
very big potholes maybe i’ll select a
car with a bigger clearance
because i need to go from point a to
point b
today but does that mean that i am just
going to not wear heels all my life and
just
buy a more expensive car to travel this
road just because the road is
bumpy no i’ve also got to contact the
responsible person to try and solve it
long term so short term solution
prepare accordingly and then longer term
solution
find a way for the road to get fixed
that’s the angle that i
look at whenever i solve problems
short term and long term more often than
not
we are torn towards one of these extreme
solutions right either we crib that
or the road is terrible and i’m not
going to travel until it’s
fixed or there’s always gonna be wrong
in the world there’s nothing that’s
gonna fix it and it’s okay i’ve adapted
i’ve just adapted into walking on
terrible roads right now and i do not
care for development
two extremes but i see there is a midway
and the midway is doing what you can
starting where you are
with what you have
all these means connecting to a little
bit of personal
experiences i’m often asked why did you
join
miss nepal why pageant i was a banker
working in the largest financial
institute in australia was it the love
of nepal that brought me back
why won’t you do movies anymore what’s
your new business about
miss nepal as i see it as a title is an
incredible way to get things done from
in nepal
the kind of love and affection and
support that you receive
as a young individual is incredible to
get things done from
it is what that has given me this mic
is it to say that it’s the only ultimate
penultimate
reflection of what a woman or somebody
who identifies as a woman should be no
but it’s a great way to get things done
from and i chose it
to do what i can with what i had
and start where i was
overall when we think of all of these
issues and i’m sure
these this topic is so much more
relevant than ever because
we feel overwhelmed i feel a physical
not in my back when i think of
everything that is wrong in the world
and what i need to do to solve it
sometimes i i’m very hard on myself
to think that oh my god i am this person
of privilege
i should do something about everything
and then you spread yourself too thin
so what is that balance between doing
everything that you can making yourself
as
effective and as efficient as possible
but without burning yourself out without
being too hard on yourself
i feel that mantra that little mantra
has really helped me navigate
to wrap up i i love this analogy and i’m
all for analogies
is imagine a bed sheet
a bed sheet that you’ve just washed and
has come out
and you leave it out to dry right it’s
all crinkled isn’t it
it’s very very crinkled and you’re
sitting in the middle with an
iron an iron that those are world
problems
all those crinkles are your world
problems
that iron is what you can do
educating yourself making yourself more
aware
growing everything that we grow to do to
develop ourselves
such as the wonderful audience listening
into us such as the organizers
organizing
is extending an arm to that iron so that
you can iron a larger place
so imagine you’re sitting in the middle
of this crinkled sheet
with an iron just ironing around you
you’re just ironing around you
somebody as an entrepreneur somebody in
policy making
somebody as an educator somebody in
media somebody in music
you have your iron and you’re ironing it
out
somebody in the other corner is still
making crinkles
right they’re creating problems
but what can you do you can sit here
with your iron
and try to iron as far as possible
because you’ve got to start where you
are do what you can
with what you have thank you everybody
have a great afternoon